Posted on May 4, 2011
Sex is best when BOTH parties want it.
Remember to STOP, ASK, and then GO.
- If you are too intoxicated to gauge or give consent
- If your partner is asleep or passed out
- If you hope your partner will say nothing and just go with it
- If you intend to have sex by any means necessary
PAUSE & ASK
- If you aren’t sure what the other person wants
- If you feel like you’re getting mixed signals
- If you have not talked about what you both want to do
- If your partner cries, stops or is not responsive
- When you have a mutual understanding about how far is appropriate
- When you have decided how far is too far
- When you are both able to respect each other’s boundaries
- When you both can clearly express/verbalize your comfort with the situation
- When you both feel safe stopping at any time
When your partner asks you for consent, it shows that s/he respects you and cares about what you want and how you feel.